EATRITE - Love Hunger - 3a

EATRITE – Module 3a – Love Hunger

Every human being is born with the need to be loved. If deprived of this in childhood, a person will walk around as an adult with an empty heart – an emotional vacuum wanting to be filled, wanting to suck, pull, shove anything into them to take the pain (emptiness) away. Nothing fills it until the problem is dealt with.

This deficit can also be caused by the exhaustion and constant giving required by the good things in your life.

THE ADDICTION CYCLE

Guilt and Shame leads to -> Love Hunger, Pain (emptiness) and Low Self Esteem

Love Hunger, Pain (emptiness) and Low Self Esteem lead to -> Wanting your Addictive Agent - food!

Wanting your addictive agent (Food) leads to -> Giving yourself Pain Relief, Anaesthesia (Eating Food)

Giving yourself Pain Relief, Anaesthesia (Eating Food) leads to -> The Consequences of Alternate Pain (I ate again!)

The Consequences of Alternate Pain (I ate again!) leads to -> the beginning of the cycle again - Guilt and Shame... and away you go again in the Self-Saboutaging Addiction Cycle.

A small percentage of eating disorders stem from physical, chemical or metabolic causes, addiction is usually actually at the core of most eating disorders. Do consult your doctor regularly to check on these other aspects – they may surface or metamorphose as you get older.

In The Addiction Cycle there is always some form of denial present, which keeps the cycle going un-problem-solvingly.

Most people don’t understand the depth of an eating compulsion.

Food is not the problem. The real problem is deeper. It could be co-dependency, love hunger, depression or something else.

Eating disordered people see themselves as lighter or heavier, smarter or stupider, happier or sadder, more- or less disadvantaged, more- or less important, richer or poorer than they really are.

Addiction distorts or destroys a person’s ability to be objective and rational. Understanding the truth is always the first step to conquering and/or managing your food compulsion.

We, with food compulsions, use food as our ANAESTHETIC. At the same time we use food to PUNISH OURSELVES for using food ineffectively to SOOTHE ourselves from the pain we had in the first place!

Other compulsive people in pain use other/s of the addictive substances or behaviours.

Those who manage their pain more effectively find the problem-solving and appropriate panacea for their pain. We want to be courageous and join the latter group of self-monitoring, mentally and behaviorally healthy people.

If we don’t interrupt the Addiction Cycle we will increase in guilt and shame and end up hating ourselves more and more, thinking we are weak.

When you can “see” the Addiction Cycle it is often a ‘rainbow’ experience enabling us to have sufficient motivation to break down the cycle at any point, and then more and more points.

The most re-assuring part of understanding is discovering that you are not abnormal, crazy or weak!

You cannot deal with only one point of the Addiction Cycle. Each point must be identified and dealt with – every time it re-appears.

Re-surfacing of The Addiction Cycle occurs usually because our understanding, awareness and vigilance have been too relaxed or allowed to become casual again.

We always need to be eating-cautious.

Scriptures: Psalm 17:8, James 2:8, Colossians 3:12, Philippians 3:13, Romans 8:1-11,
Revelation 21:7, Ephesians 4:31,32, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, John 8:36

Homework: Identify your own Addiction Cycle and interrupt it at more and more points.

From: EATRITE – Leslie Hand

EATRITE - Module 2 Action Sheet

Which of my problem areas have I pinpointed so far?

What is the “unpardonable sin”?

Who influenced me negatively in the past? Name those persons. Next to their name, write how they influenced me negatively. Let it go. Let it flow. Leave them to God. If they need to be held to account by the law of the land – find out how to do that, and what the various ”costs” will be to me.

What thoughts and patterns are limiting me from achieving my success?

What am I learning from the above?

With what I have learnt: what changes can I make so that my children will not inherit from me what I inherited from others?

Are my personal prayers becoming more meaningful? If not, how can they?

-Leslie Hand

EATRITE - Please, Praise, Resist - 2d

Module 2d continued

PLEASE GOD

John 8:29 I do always those things that please him – Be a Father pleaser

1 John 3:22 And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him because we keep his commandments – Be a Father pleaser

Hebrews 11:5 He had this testimony that he pleased God – be a Father pleaser

Hebrews 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please him – be a Father pleaser

Galatians 2:20 I live by the faith of the Son of God

Romans 10:8 The Word is nigh me, even in my mouth and in my heart… the Word of faith

Romans 10:17 Faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God

Galatians 1:10 Do I seek to please men? If I yet pleased men, I would not be the servant of Christ – Be a Father pleaser

Ephesians 6:6 I seek to please my Lord… not with eyeservice as men-pleasers…

Romans 15:1-3 We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification. For even Christ pleased not himself – Be a Father pleaser

Isaiah 56:4 For thus saith the Lord…choose the things that please me

1 Corinthians 10:31 Whether therefore eat, drink, whasotever ye do, do all to the glory of God

Colossians 3:17 …do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God…

Colossians 3:23, 24 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men…

PRAISE THE LORD

Psalm 34:1 His praise shall continually be in my mouth

Do you feel the joy of the Lord in your soul? Praise the Lord!
Do you feel blank inside, or even worse, do you feel depressed? Praise the Lord anyhow !
It is “the sacrifice of praise to God continually” you are commanded to offer. (Hebrews 13:15)

Are all your children saved? Praise the Lord!
Are some still wandering in sin? Praise the Lord anyhow!
God promises by your believing, all your house will be saved. (Acts 16:31)

Are your bills paid up-to-date? Praise the Lord!
Are you plagued by financial problems? Praise the Lord anyhow!
God promises to supply all your needs. (Philippians 4:19)

Are you enjoying good health? Praise the Lord!
Are you having health problems? Praise the Lord anyhow!
Healing is received by faith, and praise is the language of faith. (Matthew 8:13)

Is the weather good and to your liking? Praise the Lord!
Is the weather unpleasant? Praise the Lord anyhow!
“This is the day the Lord hath made: we will rejoice and be glad in it. (Psalm 118:24)

Do you have true friends who encourage you in time of testing? Praise the Lord!
Are you experiencing “People problems” from those around you? Praise the Lord anyhow!
You have the opportunity to learn about these children of God. (Joshua 24:15)

RESIST THE DEVIL

Devil: “Personified spirit of evil. Superhuman, malignant being, person of monstrous cruelty and wickedness” (Oxford dictionary)

God: “Superhuman being worshipped as having power over nature and human fortunes. Adored. Admired” (Oxford dictionary)

James 4:7 “Resist the devil and he will flee from you.”

Here is how you can resist the devil daily:

1 Detect the devil’s devices
2 Disagree with the devil by agreeing with God
3 Declare the name of Jesus
4 Discourse daily to yourself and others using the Word of God appropriately

Some of The Devil's D's

DEFEAT Romans 8:37

DISEASES Psalm 103:3

DISCOURAGEMENT Deuteronomy 1:21

DISTRESS Romans 8:31

DEBTS Philippians 4:19

DISHEARTENMENT Psalm 37:4

DESTRUCTION John 10:10

DESOLATION Psalm 34:22

DEVOURING 1 Peter 5:8,9

DISAPPOINTMENT Roman 8:28

DISHONESTY 2 Corinthians 4:2

DISSENTION Psalm 133:1

Write your own declaration using ‘d’s’

Example:
I will Daily
Decide to be Jesus’ Disciple;
Divorce myself from Satan;
Dare, Declare and
Dedicate myself to
Delight, and Dance with, Divinity

Design your own declarations regarding ‘praising the Lord’ and ‘resisting the devil’.

-Leslie Hand

EATRITE - Emotional Eating Cues - 2d

Module 2d
The purpose of this exercise is to:

1 Create an awareness of your emotional eating behaviour
2 Identify and evaluate all the changes you have already made
3 Identify areas where changes still need to be made
4 Commit these areas to the Lord. Have Him help you with them

Galatians 5:24, 16

Score Yourself:
0 = Always 1 = Often 2 = Sometimes 3 = Seldom 4 = Never

Questions
Do you eat to live? (Or live to eat?)
Do you feel guilty when you eat something nice?
Do you eat when you are bored?
Do you eat when you are angry?
Do you eat when you are stressed?
Do you eat when you are anxious?
Do you eat when you are lonely?
Do you eat when you are happy?
Do you eat when you are depressed?

Now rate these:
0 = Poor, 4 = Excellent

How do you rate your spiritual life?
How do you rate your quiet times?
How do you rate your attitude to life?
How do you rate your health?
How do you rate your energy levels?
How do you rate your physical appearance?
How do you rate your self-esteem?
How do you rate your relationship - father?
How do you rate your relationship - mother?
How do you rate your relationship - spouse?
How do you rate your relationships - children?
How do you rate your relationships - friends?
How do you rate your relationships - work?

Work steadily on making overall progress.