EATRITE - Love Hunger - 3a

EATRITE – Module 3a – Love Hunger

Every human being is born with the need to be loved. If deprived of this in childhood, a person will walk around as an adult with an empty heart – an emotional vacuum wanting to be filled, wanting to suck, pull, shove anything into them to take the pain (emptiness) away. Nothing fills it until the problem is dealt with.

This deficit can also be caused by the exhaustion and constant giving required by the good things in your life.

THE ADDICTION CYCLE

Guilt and Shame leads to -> Love Hunger, Pain (emptiness) and Low Self Esteem

Love Hunger, Pain (emptiness) and Low Self Esteem lead to -> Wanting your Addictive Agent - food!

Wanting your addictive agent (Food) leads to -> Giving yourself Pain Relief, Anaesthesia (Eating Food)

Giving yourself Pain Relief, Anaesthesia (Eating Food) leads to -> The Consequences of Alternate Pain (I ate again!)

The Consequences of Alternate Pain (I ate again!) leads to -> the beginning of the cycle again - Guilt and Shame... and away you go again in the Self-Saboutaging Addiction Cycle.

A small percentage of eating disorders stem from physical, chemical or metabolic causes, addiction is usually actually at the core of most eating disorders. Do consult your doctor regularly to check on these other aspects – they may surface or metamorphose as you get older.

In The Addiction Cycle there is always some form of denial present, which keeps the cycle going un-problem-solvingly.

Most people don’t understand the depth of an eating compulsion.

Food is not the problem. The real problem is deeper. It could be co-dependency, love hunger, depression or something else.

Eating disordered people see themselves as lighter or heavier, smarter or stupider, happier or sadder, more- or less disadvantaged, more- or less important, richer or poorer than they really are.

Addiction distorts or destroys a person’s ability to be objective and rational. Understanding the truth is always the first step to conquering and/or managing your food compulsion.

We, with food compulsions, use food as our ANAESTHETIC. At the same time we use food to PUNISH OURSELVES for using food ineffectively to SOOTHE ourselves from the pain we had in the first place!

Other compulsive people in pain use other/s of the addictive substances or behaviours.

Those who manage their pain more effectively find the problem-solving and appropriate panacea for their pain. We want to be courageous and join the latter group of self-monitoring, mentally and behaviorally healthy people.

If we don’t interrupt the Addiction Cycle we will increase in guilt and shame and end up hating ourselves more and more, thinking we are weak.

When you can “see” the Addiction Cycle it is often a ‘rainbow’ experience enabling us to have sufficient motivation to break down the cycle at any point, and then more and more points.

The most re-assuring part of understanding is discovering that you are not abnormal, crazy or weak!

You cannot deal with only one point of the Addiction Cycle. Each point must be identified and dealt with – every time it re-appears.

Re-surfacing of The Addiction Cycle occurs usually because our understanding, awareness and vigilance have been too relaxed or allowed to become casual again.

We always need to be eating-cautious.

Scriptures: Psalm 17:8, James 2:8, Colossians 3:12, Philippians 3:13, Romans 8:1-11,
Revelation 21:7, Ephesians 4:31,32, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, John 8:36

Homework: Identify your own Addiction Cycle and interrupt it at more and more points.

From: EATRITE – Leslie Hand